Men have different needs compared to women, and as such, how we deal with them on a daily basis is going to mean the difference between a happy marriage and a sour one. So here’s our top tips for sisters who want to show their husbands they really care!
1. Quit Backbiting Him!
“Husband shaming” when you get together with your family and friends is one of the WORST things you can do. Not only are you creating problems in your marriage by airing your dirty laundry, but it’s also a MAJOR sin to backbite your husband. Plus, your husband is NOT going to appreciate it – if you have an issue, TALK it through with your husband.
2. Praise Him In Public
Never allow anyone to berate your husband in public – step in and defend his honour in the same way you would expect him to do that for you. It builds love and respect and shows unity in marriage.
3. Constantly Make Dua For Him
Keep your marriage strong by making dua every day for Allah to preserve and protect your marriage.
4. Bake Him A Cake!
Men love the fact you do something nice just for them. So when they are having a hard time, bake them a cake or cookies or whatever else they like. It’s comforting and makes them feel appreciated.
5. Support Him In Charitable Acts
If your husband is in the dawah or doing some good cause, it can mean more time away from you. Get involved and support him in whatever causes he is involved in.
6. Quit The Nagging
Focus on what your husband DOES do for you and the family and be grateful for it, rather than focusing on what he doesn’t do.
7. Show Gratitude
Saying ‘jazakallah khairan’ for every little thing he does for you shows him you love him and appreciate his efforts.
8. Praise His Efforts At All Times
Men have an ego and want to please their wives. Working hard is THEIR way of showing you how much they love you because they are doing it for YOU – so praise him for his efforts. It won’t go unnoticed.
9. Support His Interests
Do things he enjoys WITH him – not only will it increase the love, but it shows that his interests are important to you.
10. Create Financial Security Through Support
Complaining about money is always a no-no and makes your husband feel he can’t take care of you. Create financial security through supporting him. Be frugal, budget wisely and learn to say alhamdullilah instead of complaining and it will create an atmosphere of security rather than lack.
11. Believe In Him…Even When He Doesn’t!
Champion your husband at all times and encourage him to be the best. He will bounce off you believing in him and it will encourage him to be his best self – ultimately bringing out the best in him.
12. Show Him Some LOVE!
Make a point to show him you love him through romantic gestures, hugs, kissing (as was the habit of the Prophet SAW) and holding hands as well as initiating intimacy in the bedroom. It will make him feel desired and want to try harder to please you.
13. Turn Your Home Into A Sanctuary!
The world is a nasty place, so make it beautiful and welcoming when your husband comes home. Treat your husband like you would a special guest and watch how it brings out the best in him.
15. Respect His Family
Your husband has a family whom he loves and respects. If you want to earn a greater amount of love and respect from your husband, show respect and love to his family also!
16. Schedule A Date Night
Keep things interesting by scheduling or (even better) surprising him with a date night. Arrange a babysitter and go out for the evening and remind him why he married you!
17. Nurture Him When He Is Sick
Men love to be macho, but when they are ill, they become like little kids – they don’t call it ‘man flu’ for no reason! Give him attention and take care of him like you would a small child. Trust us, he will be back to his good old self sooner rather than later.
18. Hide Your Disagreements
Always hide your disappointments, disagreements and arguments from your kids and from other people. Never EVER allow your children to see them as it makes kids feel insecure and shows lack of respect for him in front of the kids. Always stay united in front of the kids no matter what.